The key word of the week: Self-Discipline

Since we are little kids, we are taught to obey authorities. We need to fulfill parent’s orders, teacher’s commands, and bosses ´s wishes. We are demanded by our surround all the time in order not to be punished. So, we act everyday for “them”.

However, nobody teaches us to obey our own personal orders, commands and wishes. When we realize what we want and that we can get what we want, the demands are not from the outside but the inside. We are not anymore disciplined because of them; on the other hand, we are disciplined because of us. It is much better do something because we want to do it than someone else expects you to do it. Self discipline is an inner fire. We act because we want, we wish and we desire. I do not obey anyone else, just only me…

Talent without discipline is like an octopus on roller skates. There's plenty of movement, but you never know if it's going to be forward, backwards, or sideways.
H. Jackson Brown Jr.

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.
Jim Rohn

Ultimately, the only power to which man should aspire is that which he exercises over himself.
Elie Wiesel


I am indeed a king, because I know how to rule myself.
Pietro Aretino

Tip For Better Life N° 10: Read poems...

Poetry reading could connect your mind with your soul in a special a new way.

Poetry could give you a different perspective of things.

Poems helps you to connect with your feeling and express them.

And sometimes, poetry could be healing and healthy.

Here, just an example:

I already forgave almost unforgivable mistakes,

I tried to substitute irreplaceable people

and to forget unforgettable people.

I already made things for pulse,

I already disappointed myself with people

when I never thought me to disappoint,

but I also disappointed somebody.

I already hugged for protecting,

I already laughed when it was not able to,

I made eternal friends,

I loved and I was loved,

but I was also rejected already,

I was loved and I didn't love.

I already screamed and I jumped of so much happiness,

I already lived of love and I made eternal vows,

I "broke the face" a lot of times!

I already cried hearing music and watching pictures,

already called only for listening a voice,

I fell in love with a smile,

I already thought that will miss so much very much

and I was afraid of losing somebody special

(and i ended up losing!)

But I lived!

It's still alive!

I don't go by the life... and you should not also pass.

LIVE!!!

Good same it is to go the fight with determination,

to hug the life and to live with passion,

to lose with class and to win with daring,

because the world belongs to who daresand the life is A LOT to be insignificant.

Charles Chaplin.

Anxiously waiting for April…

March has not been an easy month for me. It was not easy last year. It is not easy this year. So, I just hope that March finish soon. My countdown began…

I was surprised to realize that my 2009 march was as complicated as my 2010 March. 2008 does not count because I was in Canada fulfilling my dream.

But the month of March in my two previous years have been…. How to define them? They were month of decisions, changes and growth. Emotional revolutionaries.

I started to think that could be an astrological connection between March and my feelings. Do you believe in Astrology? Yesterday, a friend told me that stars and my horoscope sign are the responsible of having a month so emotionally complicated. Basically he said, 45 days previous your birthday, you will feel strange, rare, unusual. He could be right but I could not find yet any proven theory that valid his argument.

Since I have been feeling ups and downs, going through a stressing period of time at work and home, I received two really nice suggestions:

1. Think Pink!

Every time you feel down, sad, depressed, just think pink, which means think positive, watch the other side of the coin, something good could grow up from the bad soil. So, think pink. Pink is powerful.

2. Protect Yourself.

Sometimes you feel very tired, exhausted of everything: routine, job, boss, building manager, etc. you are run out of patience and at the point of exploiting, crying or overwhelming by the circumstances. In those moments, it is time to say No. Say ‘no’to everything that make us feel bad. We need to protect ourselves and think about us just to get strong again. Never let anybody to hurt you anyhow.


Thanks to the people who reminded me these two nice rules of life.
I will be prepare to face next March, 2011 .

Tip for Better Life N° 9: How to make yourself feel better

Sometimes, when I feel tired, sad or depressed I ask myself what I can do to make me feel better… After thinking for a while, many ideas come up to my mind…a kind of oneself brainstorming… I think about what things I like, or what I would like to do, or where I would like to be or whom I would like to meet… I picture myself a hundred of possibilities that might never come true.. or sometimes yes… who knows? Time will say ...
But today... today I feel tired, sad and depressed and I asked myself what I can do to make me feel better.... no idea. So, I just google the question and I found a wiki answer:

Wiki says…Here are suggestions:

· Any kind of Exercise. Exercise gets the body to release very pleasant chemicals and neurotransmitters. And you can also feel better about living healthier and eventually looking better.
· Have a good check-up by your doctor. Ask for a T3/T4 thyroid test as well and also get your adrenal gland checked. These are two organs that can cause lethargy, panic attacks, depression from both.
· You could talk to a therapist, doctor, or psychiatrist; you may need an anti-depressant.
· Try watching comedies when you are alone. And try organizing gatherings with friends during the weekends. You will feel better if you are preparing for something, and you will have fun hanging out with friends.
· Organising events is usually the best way. I try to make myself feel better by doing something creative that I can rely on: I usually write.
· Other ideas: 1) get a pet. Something you can take care of. Usually when you feel bad, you can also end up quite lonely. 2) change your surroundings: move your furniture or try on a different outfit. 3) get an organiser- related to the one above, try to fill your days with something to do. 4) go somewhere- anywhere. Go for a walk with no direction. Don’t get lost, but do go for a walk and take a look around you. 5) try cooking/cleaning - sounds too domestic, but often when you cook your own meal, or clean up your home you’ll pleased with what you’ve accomplished
· Get some sun.
· Think about positive aspects of your life.
· If you’re unhappy all of the time: 1) Talk to your most supportive friends. 2) Write down the names of ten people who care about you & of people you care about. 3) Find a way to cope with your depression like: reading, writing, or drawing. 4) Hurting yourself is NEVER the answer
· Remember that you are very special and you are important. A value person that needs and wants to shine.

So, tomorrow I might join the gym again, or I will ask my doctor to make a complete check up of me, or I will start theraphy, or I will watch a funny movies or I will go out with friends, or I will read, write, sing, or do arts and crafts, or I will dress in pink color…

Tomorrow, I will do something just to make me feel better..

Tip for Better Life Nº 8: Laugh ...

When you are sad, when you feel lonely, when you are angry, upset or dissapointed, just remember there is a powerful and magical medecine: the laugh.

and if you do not find any reason to laugh, just watch these videos because I am sure they are going to help you.

The Laugh Therapy

and your day will shine again!

Aren´t they cute???

And please, don´t tell me they didn´t make you laugh!

hahahah

Tips for a better life Nº 6: How to cope with worries.

Fundamental facts you should know about worry by Dale Carnegie

1. If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osler did: Live in "day-tight compartments." Don't stew about the futures. Just live each day until bedtime.


2. The next time Trouble--with a Capital T--backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:

• Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?


• Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary.


• Then calmly try to improve upon the worst--which you have already mentally agreed to accept.

3. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. "Those who do not know how to fight worry die young."

Tip for a better life Nº4: Don´t get angry...

Who gets angry, loses.

This is the advice that my mom gave me today. Who gets angry, loses. Wise words.

Tip Nº 3: Avoid "Procastination"

Get stuff done.

Do you feel identified? Try to avoid it!

Tip Nº2: Do one thing at a time

No matter how many things you have to be done. You cannot do them all at the same time. If you tried to resolve everything in one momento, the only thing you would get is mess, chaos, anxiety and lack of results. Human beings´ mind only can focus one thing at a time. So, just do that. Focus on doing one thing and your solving power will increase. If someday you fall in desperation, just remind that "Rome was not built in one day". Stay calm, relax and focus in one thing at a time.

Tips for a better life. Tip Nº 1: Planning your day the night before

Plan your day the night before... not early in the morning, just at night.

There is a big difference between planning at night and planning in the morning. When you plan your next day the night before, you will get the benefits of the dreams. When you sleep, your mind is caching all the information that you put in that paper. When you sleep, you process all what you have to do and when you get up, you just know what to do and do it. This is a great way to do what we really want to do, need to do or have to do.... and not get disturbed by what the others wants us to do. If you follow your plan, you will reach your goals. So, plan ahead to be succesful.